How to hide a broken heart

At sometime or another, it is a cross we will have to bear. It is at times like these that you need the Bee Gees, and a box of tissues.

            There is no telling how you will get over a broken heart, or if indeed you ever will. Different people, different ways. There is no fixed time-frame either. Sorry.

            The best thing to do is to allow a few days to wallow, to see if they come back on a white horse with flowers, apology and ring.

            Be wary of wallowing alone, it is very unhealthy. For every night of wallow, prescribe three nights out.

Lines not to fall for

‘Let’s just be friends.’ Impossible if they broke your heart. Why prolong the agony? Say you’ll think about it, and call them, maybe, in a few years.

‘I value our friendship too much to date you.’ Bastard. They don’t love you, never have, don’t even find you attractive. Move on. They’ll prevent you from meeting THE ONE—and make you miserable in the process.

‘I love you, but I can’t be with you.’ A coward. Walk away; even if you paid for them to shrink, it is still an impossible and exhausting situation.

‘You’ll always have a piece in my heart.’ True. Save the violins, stamp on it. Let them regret losing you.

‘It’s just was the wrong time, wrong place.’ The ONLY ‘it was wrong time/place’ was in Casablanca, which does not apply here. Poor excuse.

‘I’m sorry. Can we try again?’ How many times have you heard this before? Be honest. Once? Shame on them. Twice or more? Shame on you.

Some things are just not meant to be. Sometimes you grow apart, move on. You’ve tried, it didn’t work, learn and leave. Try to find someone who will appreciate you. Don’t kill each other’s chances of happiness and waste years on something that will never happen.

             Be honest. Be tough. Ask yourself: where do I see myself in ten years? What do I want to have achieved? What kind of person do I have to be with? What kind of person will encourage me to be the kind of person I most want to be?

            Anyway, you think you’ve got problems, pick up Romeo and Juliet and their dire situation makes everything pale in comparison. Take comfort in the fact that falling in and out of love is never out of fashion.

            Above all, believe in true love and know that men are like shoes. A couple is like a left and a right foot, and out there is your perfect fit. Sometimes you need to change styles and shop around to find it. Sometimes you have to break styles in, sometimes you like something unstylish but comfortable, and sometimes a style—as much as you like it—just doesn’t suit you and will never fit.

            Literary quotes may help, such as:

            ‘’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,’ from Tennyson, or the less literary ones of Miss Piggy: ‘Only time can heal your broken heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs.’

            Take solace in slushy movies from Sleepless in Seattle to Wuthering Heights. Distract yourself, and learn all the words to Gloria Gaynor’s ‘I Will Survive’. If all this doesn’t drive you out of the house, nothing will.

            But all the best fairy stories end ‘they lived happily ever after. . .’ And so will you; and if not, you can buy yourself an awful lot of Manolos while trying.

Depending on your circumstances you could always, in extreme cases, consider:

            Moving countries; Paris nearly worked for Audrey Hepburn in Sabrina.

            Changing phone numbers.

            Deleting the details or locking all contact info of the offending party in secure,

                        hidden place.

            Changing job.

            Changing hairstyle.

            Rearranging the flat. If you shared, change the locks.

            Removing every trace of them from view so you are not living with

                        constant reminders.

            Booking a holiday.

            Starting a new hobby.

            Joining a gym, or starting to go to the gym you are a member of.

            Doing thins you NEVER did with them.

            Going to new areas or places of interest.

            Rationing yourself to thinking of them for only twenty minutes a day,

                        and gradually decreasing.

            Banning yourself from talking about them to friends.

            Not dwelling on the past.

            And if all else fails: therapy—retail therapy.

Feelings and emotions change. It doesn't mean that if you don't feel anything for each other anymore, then the love is gone. If love were only feelings, then there's no such thing as lasting. Love can sometimes turn numb or boring but no matter what, as long as you choose and decide to still continue, it will be more beautiful. Perhaps love is just taking rest. You just have to be patient because love itself is life, not all the time you're in for all its happiness. Sometimes you also have to give in to its bitterness. Love maturely.

Excerpt from "A Warm Cup":
"Looking at the way you hesitate to take my hand, resting so near yours, I know you're already gone. I'll make it easy for both of us, I tell myself. I'll forget the feel of your hands on my skin. I will smile and tell you that I'm happy for you because that's what you want to hear, and that's what I want to believe. I will not hope you will be back soon nor say that I wish I was going with you. Instead, I will keep in mind that there is nothing between us anymore. It's just that the coffee is too warm, and I am so cold."

First look is accidental; second is intentional.

I've never been brave in Cupid's eyes. I tend to hide what I really feel. I pretend to be fine despite the pain deep within. Now, I've realized that "nobody has the right to hurt me, unless I let them take away my happiness." Don't love just for the sake of having one but, love because you believe that your partner is "the right one".

The guy who loves you cannot actually state the reason why he does. He only knows you’re the only thing that matters next to his family. The guy who loves you worries a lot when he doesn’t hear a word from you even after he just dropped you home only because he cares. The guy who loves you apologizes nonstop even if he knows you’re wrong—he just wants you to be happy. A guy loves a girl when he knows best for both of them. He let go even though it hurts yet, he still hopes for a future with you…

"A husband puts his wife before him." (from Spiderman 3)

"Loss is a part if life. You can't really care for something or someone until you realize that one day, they may be gone. And when they do go, we feel like we'll never really care about anything again. But we do. And we discover that that loss was a gift that helps us appreciate all of the things we still have." (from Nip/Tuck)

"Sometimes, it's not about who you deserve. It's about who you want. Regrettably, the person you badly want turns out to be someone who just stole your heart away and left it out open to bleed. It's unfair and at the same time, stupid. Because you did let him/her do that. And for a moment, you actually like the feeling of falling and being fooled. What's sad is that after the crying, when you're already tired, you would still let him/her take your heart."

She's a mess. She laughs with friends. She smiles at familiar faces. She wears this mask whenever she comes around people to conceal the real emotions she possesses inside. She wears a cloak--her security blanket--for all her frigid sentiments. In solitude, she found comfort. She gained sympathy in words. She's a fool.

The world has shut her out. She drowns herself in self-pity, enveloped with a melancholic disposition. This time, she prefers to stand alone and fight to win her own battles, unarmoured.

She'll be fine. She is me.

Got up from bed early this morning. I was 15 minutes ahead of time (I set the alarm last night at 7:30am). Supposedly, today's the distribution of clearance in Eng'g however, the sked for IE's was moved to April 10 instead. We (Dad, Roi, & me) dropped Mom off in Makati where she'd be meeting with Kuya Louie (candidate donor of kidney for Tita Ed) and Tita Melba. After which, we went to UST and accompanied my brother to the Accounting Office to pay his reservation fee. When we got to the Eng'g bldg., the guards won't let me pass because I was wearing sandals. (?!) Only then that I realized why a lot of students stood infront of the building. (They all looked frustrated. Haha) Most of them were wearing sandals, too. Oh well. I called AJ up and asked him if he could do the errands for me instead. Good thing he's done with his stuff at the Student Center and he's on his way back to the Eng'g bldg. A little later, I saw JC and waved at her. I told her the guards won't let her in because she's wearing sandals; she got upset knowing that she came all the way from Tarlac. Ackk. Then, we saw Abby with the same sentiment as ours. THE EFFIN' GUARDS WON'T LET US IN. Haha. Then came Joyce who was wearing sneakers! Yey. Few moments later, my Dad and brother emerged from the gate of the bldg. saying, "O, ano na?" Haha. I had no choice but to leave and pick Mom up in Makati. I am supposed to meet Lloyd this morning but he won't answer my calls. I thought he was still asleep then I received an SMS from him--he was cornered by his Tito dear. (Oops!)

Tonight's my brother's graduation. Haha I'd love to go & see my 'lil alagas graduate. I'm excited to visit my former school and see my former teachers. Yey. Later!

"Everything that happens once may never happen again. But everything that happens twice will surely happen the third time." --Arab Proverb

Sometimes it's scary to love the person with all your heart and soul and give them everything they want because maybe someday, they'll just leave you without any explanation.

If I could sum up all the causes of hurt, pain and hatred in one word, it's just EXPECTATION.

It's next to impossible to find somebody who will never make you cry. So get the next best thing: find someone who's worth all the pain.

"I saw him walking with her, I didn't react. I saw him hugging her so tight like he'll never let go, still I stayed calm. I saw him kissing her, I didn't cry. I saw him smiling at her, I believed they were just friends. But as he turned his back on her, I saw him smiling. The smile I've been waiting to see; the smile I hoped for so long he'll give me. He blushed. That's it, I cried."

"Oftentimes, we ask for signs for us to know if he/she is the right one. What if there are no signs? Is the absence of signs a sign?" --Serendipity

All I need is for one guy, just one guy, who would be man enough to prove to me that they aren't all the same.

Our prime purpose in this life is to love others and if you can't love them, at least don't hurt them.

All my life I've accepted everything because I believe in this: "Everything happens for a reason." The hard part is "finding what the reason is..."

A message to all the girls: Don't be fooled by the sweetness of a man. Most men don't mean it, they just want to look good. When your partner is hurting you, get some space and think. Make sure you only suffer for good reasons not for foolish ones. Being in love doesn't mean being a fool. Use your head and keep your eyes open. Don't act okay if something's wrong. Go ask for help and advice but be sure to listen to it too. Lastly, always pray for guidance.

the urge to go down memory lane...
an invitation was sent to my email today.. (haha) and it came from this blog and i can't pass the opportunity to write with one of the FEW people whom i really care and i know can give back the same kind of care... :-) well as what the title suggest im on the verge of remembering the good ol' days.. heehee

the journal...
the sumo fights...
the broken bench...
'ang punit na t-shirt (sa may kili-kili) ni squirtel squad!'
the infamous line 'kung kayo tatawa lumabas muna kayo ng DLA'
'ole ole ole ole'
the pizzahut trips.. (whatta?!)
dinners with jae's family
the crazy one-liners that will never lose it mirth!
"... BABY pa daw xa"
"... SILVER to noh!"
"... SCARF yan"
**i forgot the other one! curse you memory gap!!!! grrr
the unnecessary movements! (my specialty) hahaha
the crying times (boohoo!)
the letters
smirking behind other people's back
quarrels
'don't say you love me'
poems
open forums
cherry's house
propesora moments ni kiri-an
the 'salise bakery'
karen
the 'FAM'
daunting retreat
ang hilig sa pag 'sha-share'
AND OF COURSE THE MOST RECENT ONES
jollibee LP
starbucks moments
mall of asia escapade
mga kuya sa pizzahut
my birthdays
sem breaks
endless laughter about high school memories
'pag-alala sa mga classmate nung high school'
'pag-iwas kai jake'
SM San Lazaro
yellow cab
dates ntin
the freakzoid manager and crew ng jollibee
boyfriends
debuts (lalo na ang westin!! aaaw!)
movie trips
tampuhans
and still we're all here all 5 of us (ung isa po nasa states, so 6 kami).. haha how i wish we could all go back to high school.. haha :-) its been what 7 years... (whoah!) hahaha i can still recall the 1t time i saw jae and how 'angas' she looked back then... carrie and her 'mataray' look mana kai tita jane! haha... si gayle at ang kanyang mga dimples na ubod ng taas!! haha ako, ang malakas tumawa prang wlang bukas.. hehe and of course the NERDY one, turned model/beauty queen cherry.. hahaha :-)
ang haba na ng entry ko.. haha :-) anyway, if there is one thing that I really learned with this BRUS is that...
Ang lakad na hindi
planado ay paniguradong
matutuloy!
labo no? hahahah well...

"I want to be your last call of the night and first thought in the morning..
I want those 5-hour conversations that end in: 'No, you hang-up first..'
I want the heart-racing, palm-sweating, what's-gonna-happen-next moments..
I want the hugs that never want to let go and the stolen kisses that are
always the sweetest..
But most importantly, I want to think of you as mine and mine alone.."

"The price of hating other human being is loving oneself less."
Life is so complicated, the hustle and bustle of everyday traumas can make us lose
focus about what is truly important and what is only a momentary setback of crisis.
Today, tomorrow, be sure to give your loved ones an extra hug, and by all means,
take a moment even if it's only 10 seconds, to stop and smell the roses...

Don't spoil what you have by desiring what you don't have rather
remember that what you have now was once among the things you only hoped for!

I've never understood the reasoning for someone to "move on". It's not like
you're really going to "move on", you're just trying to tell your heart to
stop thinking about that person every second of every minute, every minute of
everyday until it finally becomes a routine and you don't notice it anymore.
That is, until you see that person again, with someone who isn't you,
and then you have to remind yourself again, smile.. Smile.

Relationships are worth restoring.
"Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody."
--Romans 12:18

Time spent in getting even is better used in trying to get ahead. Revenge is
like biting a dog because it has bitten you. Control your temper. People
constantly blowing fuses are left alone in the dark.

You can never teach a guy to love you the way you want to be loved.
You have to wait for him to do it in his own way, in his own time.
That's the saddest part of being a girl.
But you can never teach a girl to love the guy back the way she did before
if she already grew tired and fed up understanding and waiting to be appreciated
and loved the way she deserves to be loved.
That's the saddest part of being an insensitive man.

Though my days have been hell at times, I still reserve a reason to smile.
Though destiny seemed to test my strength with all those shit, I still manage
to keep my faith because I know that after every f*cking tear that fall from my
eyes, comes a new spark of happiness that is even greater than every sucking
pain I felt. Damn! I still believe in happy endings.

If you were paid P1.00 for every kind word you speak and take away P1.00 for
every unkind word you say, would you be then rich or poor? Think about it.

"I think part of the reason why we hold onto something so tight for so long
is because we fear that something so great will never happen twice.."

Some people say that, "You don't know what you have until you lose it."
But it's not like that. You always know what you have, you just never thought
you would lose it.

Sometimes we never seem to be contented with what we have. We were given good
but we keep on seeking for the best which sometimes leads us to missing the
simple yet satisfying part of this journey. Just like in love, we set
requirements, we target the ideal, so where do we end up? We end up hoping
that the ones we have left behind still have spaces for us because the one
we thought to be ideal doesn't seem to see us that way. What an irony.

"There will come a time in your life that you will become infatuated with a single soul. For this person, you would do anything and not think twice about it. When asked why, you have no answer to it. You'll try your whole life to understand how a single person can affect you as much as they do; no matter how badly you hate it, and how badly it hurts, you'll love this person without regret for the rest of your life..."

Anong mararamdaman mo kapag nalaman mong binabackstab ka ng mga taong itinuturing mong malalapit na mga kaibigan?